its possable from what i gatheed really quickly from here http://www.the-gadgeteer.com/review/winamp_remote_control_review you need a winLIRC plugin from here http://winlirc.sourceforge.net/
lost329 your not going to get any faster, your on DSL light and the advertised is 256/128kbps, you close enough. If you want faster then you have to upgrade to the next plan the 1.5 utlra.
any port other then 21 or 80.
If your on cable internet you wont be able to foward ports in the modem, becasue its not there all ports are open. Do you have a software firewall, or a router?